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The Dilemma of Motherhood and A Renewed Sense of Appreciation

Time was my ally during this break where I focused on myself, my family and friends. I was thrilled to be on my own, to have plenty of time to do whatever I wanted to do. I kept in touch with my hubby and bundle of joy with Skype. However I didn’t expect that my daughter seeing my face on a screen and not next to her will make her so sad. She didn’t want to have cuddles from her daddy, wanted to be alone to cry. It broke my heart when my hubby called me for help and I could hear her in the background…completely heartbreaking. Knowing her sadness to do not have me around really makes me wonder if it wasn’t better for her to do not see me for a few days instead of realising daily that I wasn’t with her which will worsen the situation. Most of the books for parents advise to keep in touch with our children, what I totally agree with. But in this case, I noticed more …

A Time for me Where Time is my Ally, not my Enemy

At last ! Yes, I am coming back in France for a few days and I cannot wait particularly because this time, I am travelling alone, like a single person on my own. No kids, no hubby and I am thrilled by it. Because it is one break I need. To recharge my batteries. To embrace this « me time », to see my family and friends. To rest and sleep for hours without interruption. And you know WHAT ?I do not feel ANY guilt about it because I love being a mum, a wife but ultimately I like being a woman on my own. Enjoy simple things. Being alone with my thoughts. Use this time to reflect, think and live in the moment with no stress, no pressure, no deadlines. A time for me where Time is my Ally, not my Enemy. Credit featured picture: ShopStyle

Meditation And Self Care, My Saviors To Find Back My Balance

Always my savior when things unravel,  when I can feel that I am getting impatient, snapping, reacting instead of observing and act accordingly. Yes when I feel that my inner patience is not attainable, I  know that I need to meditate, to become centred, more aware and see what are the real reasons of my increasing impatience. Sometimes like yesterday it’s just the feeling to juggle so many things that lead me to lose my cool. Between work, food shopping, play and look after my bundle of joy, prepare the dinner and find 5 minutes to eat, I really felt that setting up boundaries is necessary to keep my sanity…and meditate to get back my dear balance. In these moments,  we really need to stop running and this is what I did. I sat down and ate, I took the time to do it and my daughter got it and played alone for a few minutes…and this is only what I needed, a few minutes for myself to slow down for awareness and mindful eating. …

Ask for Help, You Would Never Regret It

Yesterday, I saw that asking for help is the best gesture to do when you feel at loss and overwhelmed with anger, irritation and bloody frustration. My bundle of joy decided to organise a samba party until 11pm or midnight to wake up in the middle of the night to request my attention. Obviously used to sleep deprivation, I managed to be Wonderwoman for a few weeks but now I can feel my demeanour gradually changing. So, after my anger levels went to the stratosphere, I just spoke to let go of everything : lack of everything, too much to cope, to handle, need a break, enough of stupid emails, of the lack of professionalism of some people, of a serious lack of sleep. And, this is where the magic of communication operated. By opening up, I let show my humanity, my ability to be vulnerable, lost and tired. And, all of us we can be empathetic i.e understand the issues of others, put ourselves in their feet. And when you ask for help, everyone wants …

The secret to see my daughter sleeping in less than 10 minutes !

I found the solution. My daughter is keeping on my toes everyday. She is seeking my attention constantly and sometimes I am just craving some time for myself, after all I am just a human being, not a Wonder Woman ! What I did is having quality time with her mixed with various activities : soft play, going to the zoo, going to the beach, watch Walt Disney movies, messy play, water play, dance and music to keep her occupied… because she is eager to learn, to give a try to new things and explore unknown territories daily. What really occurred to me is going on holiday (countryside) and sleeping in coton flannel sheets is THE secret to see my daughter fall asleep in less than 10 minutes and THIS is the 🍒 on the 🎂 to have some « me time « to the end of the day knowing that I did my best for her to be happy everyday. Credit featured picture : indulgy.com

Princess Sophia, a pleasure to watch it even a thousand times !

From all the children series, my daughter chose Princess Sophia as a model and I am not going to complain. She didn’t reach the point to believe she’s a princess but she is happily dancing and watching the different episodes with the same joy. I try as much as I can to change them  for my sake and my sanity but sometimes it’s a bit tricky ! I have to say from my time we had Club Dorothy with les Chevaliers du Zodiaque,  Princesse Sarah, Nicky Larsson, Jeanne et Serge. And until now, I am happy to watch again Nicky Larsson. However Princess Sophia, I am not sure my daughter will be keen to watch it in a few years ! However, more I am watching Princess Sophia with my bundle of joy, more I have to recognise that the team behind this Walt Disney series is talented and created a beautiful series. Sophia, freshly new princess receives a gift from her father a medallion which appear to be magic. For each good act she …