Time was my ally during this break where I focused on myself, my family and friends. I was thrilled to be on my own, to have plenty of time to do whatever I wanted to do. I kept in touch with my hubby and bundle of joy with Skype. However I didn’t expect that my daughter seeing my face on a screen and not next to her will make her so sad. She didn’t want to have cuddles from her daddy, wanted to be alone to cry. It broke my heart when my hubby called me for help and I could hear her in the background…completely heartbreaking.
Knowing her sadness to do not have me around really makes me wonder if it wasn’t better for her to do not see me for a few days instead of realising daily that I wasn’t with her which will worsen the situation. Most of the books for parents advise to keep in touch with our children, what I totally agree with. But in this case, I noticed more the negative impact of this guidance than anything else and decided to do not call her via Skype. I spoke with my best friend which confirmed my opinion, not an easy decision for us mums but when they are babies or toddlers, they are not aware of the concept of time.
Let me tell you that I was looking forward to seeing my daughter and my hubby. My bundle of joy was excited and happy to see me and I learned from her daddy that her sadness bubble vanished when she didn’t see me via screen. In a nutshell, a real confirmation that I made the right decision.
Additionally, when your energy levels are fully restored, you can’t wait to share it with your loved ones as well as appreciate even more what is your family life. I felt grateful everyday for the blessings I have in my life and going on holiday is a revelation to embrace even more the concept of appreciation.
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