Motherhood: a rewarding job with a bunch of valuable skills

wp-1467091491876.jpgWhen my daughter is born, my heart was ready to explode by the overwhelming love and joy I have to carry my baby in my arms. We have to admit it, we are totally focused on our baby and we will do anything to make them happy. Without knowing it, day after day, you will master several skills to follow the routine of your baby as well as running a house and manage other tasks.

You will become an expert at organising, making mental lists of everything you need to have and to do to make your life easier – shopping food online, paying bills, cleaning, washing machine, find the new Airbnb flat for the next holiday, make the appointments to the pediatrician, attend stay and play sessions, baby yoga massage for your bundle of joy, meal planning, visit to family abroad etc… and this is just a brief view of what I used to manage. You are also fantastic at multitasking, you know exactly what you can do in a specific time to get things done efficiently and also to have a chance to do, for instance your workout or tidy up the kitchen.

You are also a skilled project manager, yes, we do not realise it but between breast-feeding, nap time, you stay in touch with the rest of the world by managing the next visit to see friends, family as well as the first birthday party of your child in two countries (if your family is not living in London) or (and I did it!) the christening of your child. I was thinking ahead about the next trip abroad to attend a friend’s wedding at Amsterdam  and already making a mental list of everything I needed to book in advance : flights and train tickets, hotels or find a great Airbnb flat in the centre of a city I did not know, food planning, clothes and especially do not forget the comforter of your child !

You are also excellent at problem solving and time management. You have no choice sometimes because you cannot be in control of everything, you need to find an alternative solution to move forward and comply with the deadlines which can be for instance, feeding your child in 10 minutes because you know it by her routine. This is not easy at first but after this is a piece of cake because you start to keep a cool head in difficult situations. You will be fantastic to step back when your child will cry or make a tantrum because you will look or already understand the reason of it… and therefore be able to handle these bumps in the road quickly and wisely. It is a learning curve as well as a fantastic time to get to know your child.

And for my point of view, the last ones are communication and negotiation. Because you want the best for your love, you will read books, guides, listen to other mums to be a master in communication. You will also interact with so many new persons : Key person, pediatrician, health visitor, manager, nurse that you will learn quickly how to deal with all these persons. In regards to negotiation, negotiate with your child is challenging, particularly when she know your tricks and is strong-willed like you. You have to negotiate, compromise, explain numerous times sometimes before to see the end of it. And sometimes it can be the same with the daddy, trust me, it can be a real mental workout.

In a nutshell, you will come back at work with more valuable skills than before and don’t ever think that your maternity leave is negative for your career, to the contrary !! It will give you time to rethink your career or even to develop a portfolio career, you never know what is around the corner ! Ultimately being a mum is one of the job I love most.

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Me too by Meghan Trainor

These are the words popping in my mind when I am listening to this song : Fun, light and an original celebration to love yourself. Yes, sometimes you do not need to be loved, you just need to love yourself, stop to beat yourself up and to compare yourself to everyone. You are beautiful the way you are now. If you want to become the best of yourself, work for it, believe in yourself and empower yourself. Easier said than done but this is truth. So, first love yourself and enjoy this fun, funky song that I really LOVE ! Enjoy your Sunday everyone and take care !

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Honesty, Love, Laugh and Sistas for ever

There are some feelings that we cannot forget when you are overwhelmed by a rising anger, that you call your friends for help and advice but more importantly to speak your mind , listen to them and let go of your anger, of these strong emotions which can leave you breathless and engulfed in a darkness bubble. Always, reach for your circle of friends. They are the ones to give you a kick in your ass, to remind you who you are and confirm that your feelings are normal and you need to deal with them…and move on.

I miss my friends, they are all over the world but just with one call, I can hear them and feel so much better to be understood. This is priceless ans so precious that I will always be here for my friends to support them during the high and lows of their life. They know how to reassure me, listen to me and especially, they’re always, always honest with me whatever the circumstances and they always make me laugh ! This raw, pure honesty is the glue, the bond between my friends which stick us together. Honesty, Love, Laugh and Sistas for ever. Thank you Morgane and Emilie. I don’t know what I will do without you!

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Music is everything

b34a927263b5c7a8164c6b563d69f34aSince my childhood music  is source of joy, fun and passion. This is one of the things I can’t live without it. Whatever your mood,  your state of mind, music has the ability to shift your attitude, to either soothe you, energise you or saddens you. More importantly music can be your ally, your partner to alleviate your stress, anxiety and help you each day to step back from the hustle and bustle of London. I see everyday in the train, the tube, in the street people listening to music with their headphones or earsets. It is an evidence once again that music is a daily part of our life. Everyone from big to small businesses, to hospitals and childcare use music as an invaluable and powerful tool for their goals.

Music is also used to work with children and adults of all ages and social backgrounds with a range of issues including : eating, communication disorders, anxiety, addiction and behavioural and emotional difficulties. Music therapy can be particularly helpful when emotions are too confusing to express verbally. Music therapy is a psychological therapy that aims to facilitate positive changes in emotional wellbeing and communication through the engagement in live musical interaction between client and therapist.

I also learnt to my daughter to enjoy music and dance to the fullest, to express her joie de vivre constantly and to be familiar and confident with her body. This is, I think something you should learn to each child : be comfortable with your body, know how to move it and embrace dancing, moving which is the celebration of life. I don’t want for her to feel ashamed of it or to feel clumsy with it. We are how we move. Music is part of my DNA.

I  learnt recently that music is the best tool for babies to learn how to speak due to the repetitive intonation patterns of a nursery rhyme or song. They are developing their verbal and physical coordination as well as their rhythm. This is brilliant and so playful that they don’t see it as an exercise but as a funny and entertaining game. I really love the idea of learning by having fun, particularly at this age.

Music is everywhere. It is from my point of view one of the best hobby to have and it is so rewarding emotionally. Music is everything because life would be devoid of meaning, joy, passion, love, without the expressions of our emotions owing to the music. Music is definitely everything.

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